How often do you sit and wonder if you’re doing enough, or if you’re where you’re “supposed to be” in life this very moment?
If you’ve stopped and asked yourself these questions chances are you probably aren’t alone. The question I have for you is, why?
Why are you wondering such things and does it really matter where you’re “supposed’ to be at some certain point in your life? Who cares and more importantly whom are you trying to impress?
As a strength coach I work with people constantly asking themselves these sorts of questions, daily. “Am I big enough, Should I been skinnier, Why can’t I look like…” etc. etc.
Here’s my advice: It doesn’t matter… so long as you’re strong.
Before you run away with that statement I’m not suggesting that your worries and concerns are no longer important once you can deadlift twice your bodyweight. To me being strong is much more than being able to hoist something heavy over your head or pick something heavy off the ground, although I’d argue life is better when you can do both.
Being strong in my opinion is much much more than a physical attribute one has. Rather being strong means staying true to who you are, what you want to do, and ultimately, creating a life you love.
Strength can come in many forms; mental, physical, and emotional are few that come to mind.
People go wrong, in my opinion, when they allow outside sources to influence their decision-making, or alter who they are/want to be.
The media, our friends, colleagues, and especially our family members influence our decision making on a daily basis.
My tip today is this: Try to practice a little bit of everything listed today, everyday. Perhaps you’ll find yourself feeling stronger mentally, physically, and emotionally and ultimately creating a life you love.
We never stop and think to breathe. We take over 20,000 breaths a day and yet I’d argue most people hardly take one deep breath a day.
Find a comfortable place to sit and practice this every morning:
- Close your eyes, close your mouth, and breathe in slowly through your nose with your tongue on the roof of your mouth
- Hold the top of your inhale for 3 seconds, open your mouth and exhale until you literally feel zero air in your lungs.
- You’ll feel your core tighten as you do.
- Hold the bottom of your exhale for 3 seconds and repeat for a total of 10 breaths.
Breathing is something so subconscious that we literally don’t think about it at all, ever. The kid’s wake up, you need to get ready for work, and your phone’s continually beeping at you.
Stop, take a deep breath (or 10), and move forward. You’re going to feel better and be more productive, I guarantee it.
Repeat this sentence in your head 3 times; “Create a life you love”. Do you feel happier, more energized, or even motivated to do something, right now?
Positive thinking can have an enormous effect on your thoughts and actions. Constantly dwelling on your to-do list, impressing others, or making sure you’re where you should be in life at this very moment does very little in regard to creating a life you actually love.
Ultimately you do dictate your life, you either love it, like it, or just deal with it.
Repeat that statement to yourself daily and see if you don’t start thinking differently, taking different actions, and hopefully, enjoying life more.
Lift Heavy Stuff
And of course deadlift and put heavy weight over your head.
And then stop. Get out, and move on with your day and the life you want to create.
As a strength coach there’s no denying, I love to workout more than most people. But that doesn’t mean it has to be my life!
There’s so much more to life than the gym. For this I suggest the following.
Choose 1 exercise from each of the lists below and do them every day. If you need to take a day off because life gets in the way than so be it. Life happens.
- #1: Arm-Bar, Turkish Get-up, Bent Press
- #2: Kettlebell swings
- Perform 1 rep on each side of exercise #1 and repeat 5 times
- Perform anywhere from 5-10 sets of 10 swings (depending on your level of fitness)
If I had to choose, I’d choose the Bent Press because it allows you to put the most weight over your head with 1-arm. Try other methods if you want, but trust me this wins.
As for #2, obviously you’re only option is the swing however, play around with different variations day-to-day. 1-handed swings, 2-handed swings, double swings, and power swings. If you have other variations you like that’s fine too.
Start thinking of your workout as a punch-the-clock type of task.
Get in, get out, and get on with your day.
I fear too many times people think they’re getting results when they’re actually at the gym. As if one good workout will rapidly give them the results they want.
More is not better, it’s just more.
Be patient. You’ll get stronger that way.
Most people I meet don’t have enough patience for the results they seek. Early in my career I myself fell into that category for quite some time.
So remember, get in, get out, and get on with your day. That is, unless the life you love is the gym itself, in which case there’s much more we need to discuss.